What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence is often defined as “the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.”

EQ (emotional quotient) is the way we become aware of our own emotions, understand how to manage those emotions, become aware of other people’s emotions and interact with others. All of these skills are at the heart of how we understand ourselves and build healthy relationships.

EQ is the ability to motivate yourself to take actions that you determine will serve your vision and assist you in reaching your goals. It is the ability to be joyful regardless of your circumstances. It is the ability to manage stress, connect with others’ feelings and to understand what motivates them. It is the ability to respond to situations instead of reacting to allow for intentional, conscious choices that are more likely to lead to desired outcomes in life.

 

Why Emotional Intelligence matters?

Emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success.

Studies examining the link between EI and a range of interpersonal relations found that participants with higher EQ scores had higher scores for empathic perspective taking, self-monitoring and social skills, cooperation with partners, relationship satisfaction, and more affectionate relationships. (Schutte, Malouff, Bobik, Coston, Greeson, Jedlicka, Rhodes, & Wendorf, 2001).

In the corporate world, soft skills are truly integral to the success of those wanting to move up in an organization.

EQ is, in many ways, the essence of being human. Emotional Intelligence helps us in so many ways: from assisting in looking after our physical and mental health and well-being, to our ability to inspire and lead other people.

EQ has been identified by many organizations as being the number one contributing factor to success. It is regarded as more important than IQ, resources, contacts or other environmental factors when it comes to predicting success.

 

Can it be learned?

The good news is that while some people are born with a higher EQ, for those that are not, those skills can be learned.  There has been some clear and focused research that supports this fact. To make this happen, an individual needs to be personally motivated to do this.  When motivation and desire to learn and grow are present, an individual is able to radically increase the quality of their life by simply learning effective, research-based strategies for increasing their level of EQ.

Why I teach Emotional Intelligence skills in the corporate setting and to parents?

 

High Emotional Intelligence also means self-awareness and learning to live consciously. I am very passionate about teaching those skills to people in the corporate setting, as well as teaching parents how to become more conscious and how to apply Emotional Intelligence concepts to parenting.

Marianne Williamson said: “There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.” I couldn’t agree with her more!

Because it’s very difficult to raise kids with high EQ, when parents are not aware of their own emotions and don’t live their life consciously, it is imperative that we teach parents those skills first.

Parents who are more self-aware, can, in turn, help their children learn emotional awareness and self-regulation. In my experience, when parents learn what it means to parent consciously – those ordinary, every-day moments of interaction between them and their children is where extraordinary lessons are learned.

In my work, I incorporate the latest research on brain science, positive psychology, and child development.  Employing those proven strategies to teach and coach others is what allows me to be so effective in teaching Emotional Intelligence strategies and skills.